Fuck yeah man glad to hear it. In no way is it selfish.
That's how I am. If I do something for myself I see it as selfish. Working on that as well. But yeah, I can honestly say things are good right now. Crazy what a couple of months can do. Thanks again.
I am glad to hear that, my friend!
“You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.”
That's how I am. If I do something for myself I see it as selfish. Working on that as well. But yeah, I can honestly say things are good right now. Crazy what a couple of months can do. Thanks again.
I am glad to hear that, my friend!
Thanks! Sometimes you need to know when you need help.
That's how I am. If I do something for myself I see it as selfish. Working on that as well. But yeah, I can honestly say things are good right now. Crazy what a couple of months can do. Thanks again.
So what if it is selfish? So long as its not hurting anyone selfish isn't a bad thing. Be selfish, take care of yourself, you come first. At the end of the day, all we have is ourselves, and if we don't look after ourselves, then we aren't in any state to help look after anyone else.
I sympathize with the struggle of feeling selfish, I really struggle with it too, its so easy to come up with a thousand reasons to shame ourselves, and being selfish is just one more excuse I use to be a dick to myself, when really who cares?
I find I deal with it better, if I make the distinction of good selfish vs bad selfish. Then again in that act I am thinking about other people and how my "selfish" actions affect them, so by that very act I guess its not selfish, but eh.. Going down that rabbit hole is unnecessary.
Good to hear things are going well for you.
That is a good way of thinking of it, the good and bad selfish. I wasn't calling it that but it is basically how I am doing things now. If I don't want to do something and it will not hurt someone I don't do it. There are times when I don't want to do something but it will impact my wife or kids negatively so I do it. I've been learning that it is good and important to take care of myself as well as others. It used to be just about others.
Post by Lord Cornelius on Oct 25, 2019 12:54:04 GMT -8
My wife was on them for a period of time but didn't like how they made her feel. She has worries kind of along the lines of what Fleet posted and in general doesn't like feeling like she's drugged out or not herself.
She has shit loads of anxiety & doesn't sleep well at all. She also has pretty extreme anger issues & the worst patience of pretty much anyone I know when it comes to how easily she gets pissed off by people/situations. I feel bad for saying it but when she was on meds I actually was really happy about it selfishly, because she actually could process certain stressful events/moments in a calm/mature way that typically would send her on some raging overreaction before; and once she went off the meds the rage and anger came back pretty instantly. We're working on it tho and she's super aware of it and not in denial and wants to work on it, but it's tough to be around when it's bad.
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My wife was on them for a period of time but didn't like how they made her feel. She has worries kind of along the lines of what Fleet posted and in general doesn't like feeling like she's drugged out or not herself.
She has shit loads of anxiety & doesn't sleep well at all. She also has pretty extreme anger issues & the worst patience of pretty much anyone I know when it comes to how easily she gets pissed off by people/situations. I feel bad for saying it but when she was on meds I actually was really happy about it selfishly, because she actually could process certain stressful events/moments in a calm/mature adult way that typically would send her on some raging overreaction before; and once she went off the meds the rage and anger came back pretty instantly. We're working on it tho and she's super aware of it and not in denial and wants to work on it, but it's tough to be around when it's bad.
Nobody needs to deal with that kind of shit, man. Eye get it, you felt better. But it's not about you. Amongst us, but fuck no. Eye just spent some time with some old Colorado friends that are ultimately California fucknuts. The most California of them is the least affected. Well, that's debatable but Eye totally dislike the idea of meds. Yes, some people are in need. But I'm currently SMH. People here joke that Eye should take my meds or go on meds. Um, no. If it's medical, fine. If it's your brain, think twice.
Back to the California people, Eye just visited them in Washington. Near Canada. Fun. Cool people. They have two kids and they're both fucked up yet "beautiful" in that sense of intelligence. The boy has ADHD and so my assumption is that he's drugged up because his mother was drugged up in HS back in the day. He seems okay. Eye wouldn't know, but he's okay. The daughter is maybe gay, but she's the coolest person I've met lately. She's not blind, but it took them some time to figure that out. She's not anything near blind and showed me her painting and her mother was like wow she showed you that?
I'd do anything for that little girl. Eye guess she's 11? Thick glasses and half blind. But she's cool. Already sent her a Day of the Dead card. New Mexico shit that she'll appreciate. They're not my family but they are. Odd how that works out.
My wife was on them for a period of time but didn't like how they made her feel. She has worries kind of along the lines of what Fleet posted and in general doesn't like feeling like she's drugged out or not herself.
She has shit loads of anxiety & doesn't sleep well at all. She also has pretty extreme anger issues & the worst patience of pretty much anyone I know when it comes to how easily she gets pissed off by people/situations. I feel bad for saying it but when she was on meds I actually was really happy about it selfishly, because she actually could process certain stressful events/moments in a calm/mature adult way that typically would send her on some raging overreaction before; and once she went off the meds the rage and anger came back pretty instantly. We're working on it tho and she's super aware of it and not in denial and wants to work on it, but it's tough to be around when it's bad.
Good luck. Hope for the best but find your limit and dont keep thinking that the best is just around the corner.
My wife was on them for a period of time but didn't like how they made her feel. She has worries kind of along the lines of what Fleet posted and in general doesn't like feeling like she's drugged out or not herself.
She has shit loads of anxiety & doesn't sleep well at all. She also has pretty extreme anger issues & the worst patience of pretty much anyone I know when it comes to how easily she gets pissed off by people/situations. I feel bad for saying it but when she was on meds I actually was really happy about it selfishly, because she actually could process certain stressful events/moments in a calm/mature adult way that typically would send her on some raging overreaction before; and once she went off the meds the rage and anger came back pretty instantly. We're working on it tho and she's super aware of it and not in denial and wants to work on it, but it's tough to be around when it's bad.
There are great non med therapies for retraining a person on how they react. I went through CBT because my mental health was better served with therapy than drugs. I had allergic reactions to a dozen or more meds and couldn’t take it anymore. Maybe your wife can find a cognitive therapy to help instead of meds... Also I don’t think you’re completely selfish for wanting to have peace too... I’ll tell you what tho, having a partner who supports you is really helpful. My hubs makes it easier for me. I shut down and get reclusive when my anxiety disorder picks up. It sucks.
My wife was on them for a period of time but didn't like how they made her feel. She has worries kind of along the lines of what Fleet posted and in general doesn't like feeling like she's drugged out or not herself.
She has shit loads of anxiety & doesn't sleep well at all. She also has pretty extreme anger issues & the worst patience of pretty much anyone I know when it comes to how easily she gets pissed off by people/situations. I feel bad for saying it but when she was on meds I actually was really happy about it selfishly, because she actually could process certain stressful events/moments in a calm/mature adult way that typically would send her on some raging overreaction before; and once she went off the meds the rage and anger came back pretty instantly. We're working on it tho and she's super aware of it and not in denial and wants to work on it, but it's tough to be around when it's bad.
There are great non med therapies for retraining a person on how they react. I went through CBT because my mental health was better served with therapy than drugs. I had allergic reactions to a dozen or more meds and couldn’t take it anymore. Maybe your wife can find a cognitive therapy to help instead of meds... Also I don’t think you’re completely selfish for wanting to have peace too... I’ll tell you what tho, having a partner who supports you is really helpful. My hubs makes it easier for me. I shut down and get reclusive when my anxiety disorder picks up. It sucks.
Thanks yeah I am hopeful and we've talked about therapy / been before in limited fashion but it's been years. Like 3-4 years ago actually I think. We got in a fight in front of the therapist and the therapist looked scared and that was it for us basically lol. I was like isn't this the exact thing a therapist should be able to help with? She literally had nothing constructive or insightful to offer. We both bonded over that at least. I have been pretty bad the last year or so with dealing with stress/anger in general. Shutting down in situations / burying things / not knowing how to communicate when shit is stressful or on edge / etc. We had a really great weekend though kind of re-setting / agreeing on where we need to go from here. I can be a lot better in general at dealing with shit and communicating so that's my personal goal.
There are great non med therapies for retraining a person on how they react. I went through CBT because my mental health was better served with therapy than drugs. I had allergic reactions to a dozen or more meds and couldn’t take it anymore. Maybe your wife can find a cognitive therapy to help instead of meds... Also I don’t think you’re completely selfish for wanting to have peace too... I’ll tell you what tho, having a partner who supports you is really helpful. My hubs makes it easier for me. I shut down and get reclusive when my anxiety disorder picks up. It sucks.
Thanks yeah I am hopeful and we've talked about therapy / been before in limited fashion but it's been years. Like 3-4 years ago actually I think. We got in a fight in front of the therapist and the therapist looked scared and that was it for us basically lol. I was like isn't this the exact thing a therapist should be able to help with? She literally had nothing constructive or insightful to offer. We both bonded over that at least. I have been pretty bad the last year or so with dealing with stress/anger in general. Shutting down in situations / burying things / not knowing how to communicate when shit is stressful or on edge / etc. We had a really great weekend though kind of re-setting / agreeing on where we need to go from here. I can be a lot better in general at dealing with shit and communicating so that's my personal goal.
My first marriage broke down because of a lack of communication. Also an undiagnosed menstrual issue called PMDD which cause insane mood swings during PMS...without understanding what was the issue. It is better to be on the same page and not to resent each other. That shit will fester all on it’s own. I wish you two the best of luck in finding a therapy that works for both of you. I love love, and want every married couple to stay together forever in happiness, so I’m gonna root for you guys...
Thanks yeah I am hopeful and we've talked about therapy / been before in limited fashion but it's been years. Like 3-4 years ago actually I think. We got in a fight in front of the therapist and the therapist looked scared and that was it for us basically lol. I was like isn't this the exact thing a therapist should be able to help with? She literally had nothing constructive or insightful to offer. We both bonded over that at least. I have been pretty bad the last year or so with dealing with stress/anger in general. Shutting down in situations / burying things / not knowing how to communicate when shit is stressful or on edge / etc. We had a really great weekend though kind of re-setting / agreeing on where we need to go from here. I can be a lot better in general at dealing with shit and communicating so that's my personal goal.
My first marriage broke down because of a lack of communication. Also an undiagnosed menstrual issue called PMDD which cause insane mood swings during PMS...without understanding what was the issue. It is better to be on the same page and not to resent each other. That shit will fester all on it’s own. I wish you two the best of luck in finding a therapy that works for both of you. I love love, and want every married couple to stay together forever in happiness, so I’m gonna root for you guys...
Thanks and sorry to hear about that. We've made it almost 8 years and through lots of crazy shit already. I can't really imagine life without her and we're both pretty determined people so I feel pretty confident. We had an awesome weekend just the 2 of us which we really needed.
My first marriage broke down because of a lack of communication. Also an undiagnosed menstrual issue called PMDD which cause insane mood swings during PMS...without understanding what was the issue. It is better to be on the same page and not to resent each other. That shit will fester all on it’s own. I wish you two the best of luck in finding a therapy that works for both of you. I love love, and want every married couple to stay together forever in happiness, so I’m gonna root for you guys...
Thanks and sorry to hear about that. We've made it almost 8 years and through lots of crazy shit already. I can't really imagine life without her and we're both pretty determined people so I feel pretty confident. We had an awesome weekend just the 2 of us which we really needed.
Thats really good to hear. Hubs and I’ve been together for almost 9 and went through a long distance relationship and so adjusting, but we both decided we love each other too much not to give it our all and to listen and communicate.
I just started taking lithium, but I was just diagnosed with schizophrenia and BPD. I either take lithium for BPD or an anti depressant, cant remember as I think I'm already getting dementia.
That's a bummer my dude. Keep your head up. Maybe itll help.
Bipolar schizoaffective disorder. Hearing that today was a shot to the nuts. I used to delete my posts on this board because I would get embarrassed, now I understand I'm simply a mental midget who communicates like the fat bastard from Austin Powers.
Last Edit: Oct 29, 2019 17:17:48 GMT -8 by Mitch Rapp
That's a bummer my dude. Keep your head up. Maybe itll help.
Bipolar schizoaffective disorder. Hearing that today was a shot to the nuts. I used to delete my posts on this board because I would get embarrassed, now I understand I'm simply a mental midget who communicates like the fat bastard from Austin Powers.
Hey Mitch! I am pulling for you, my friend. See what can be done for your condition and don't hesitate to get help.
You are not alone, brother!
“You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.”
That's a bummer my dude. Keep your head up. Maybe itll help.
Bipolar schizoaffective disorder. Hearing that today was a shot to the nuts. I used to delete my posts on this board because I would get embarrassed, now I understand I'm simply a mental midget who communicates like the fat bastard from Austin Powers.